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March 2, 2021

Ep 8. Spotting our Sneaky Self-Sabotage Patterns

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In this episode, I share a breakthrough I recently had in therapy and realizations around my pattern of avoiding things (super enneagram 9 vibes). I give tips for how to spot your own sneaky patterns that are sabotaging your goals and give encouragement to face things head on in your life and relationships.

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  • The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile
  • Episode 6: Love in the time of Quarantine with Kimberly Cabot
  • @HandelGroup Instagram
  • Armchair Expert podcast with Amy Poehler

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Hey, I’m Sika

Hey, I’m Sika

Millennial coach, writer, and heart-centered creative obsessed with creating a life that feels good. I like to write about life lessons, mindfulness, relationships, and tips for living an authentic life. You can find me sipping an oat milk latte, practicing yoga, coaching clients, yapping on the mic for Ease and Grow, listening to a podcast or audiobook, taking my 100th personality test, or being a listening ear for a friend. ❤️

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💗 how you envision 2026 unfolding in past tense (a manifestation exercise)
🧡 your current vision for yourself in 3,5, or 10 years (see how much of your goals change in a year)
💛 a hype up encouragement letter tailored to you (a balm for seasonal sadness)

I opted for option 1 ❤️ and surprised myself with 2 pages front and back!! I really enjoyed writing this by hand with a snowscape on the tv and a candle lit. 

Make this exercise your own and let me know which option you choose!

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what to write about ⬇️ ❤️ where you are in life, how you feel, what's been happening, what you hope for the future (an exercise in self-intimacy) 💗 how you envision 2026 unfolding in past tense (a manifestation exercise) 🧡 your current vision for yourself in 3,5, or 10 years (see how much of your goals change in a year) 💛 a hype up encouragement letter tailored to you (a balm for seasonal sadness) I opted for option 1 ❤️ and surprised myself with 2 pages front and back!! I really enjoyed writing this by hand with a snowscape on the tv and a candle lit. Make this exercise your own and let me know which option you choose! #selfcaretips #journalingprompts #newyearritual
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This one is an up close and personal look at how perfectionism shows up for me and how internal family systems work can be extremely helpful for healing the stories that feed into the need to be and do things perfectly.

Stories that say you can't make a mistake or, if you're like me, "it'll be my fault." 

Atim cautions me against looking for a simple 5 step plan to heal perfectionism and encourages a practice to process deep seated emotions that we're scared to feel. We also talk about societal and cultural pressure to be perfect. It's a juicy one!!

Tune in to get tips on dealing with perfectionism and to hear a personal and healing conversation about my own neuroses that stem from the urge to control and manage things a particular way 🙃

Do you identify as a perfectionist? Share your experience in the comments!

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"We're making the rules and we can change the rules"

This one is an up close and personal look at how perfectionism shows up for me and how internal family systems work can be extremely helpful for healing the stories that feed into the need to be and do things perfectly.

Stories that say you can't make a mistake or, if you're like me, "it'll be my fault." 

Atim cautions me against looking for a simple 5 step plan to heal perfectionism and encourages a practice to process deep seated emotions that we're scared to feel. We also talk about societal and cultural pressure to be perfect. It's a juicy one!!

Tune in to get tips on dealing with perfectionism and to hear a personal and healing conversation about my own neuroses that stem from the urge to control and manage things a particular way 🙃

Do you identify as a perfectionist? Share your experience in the comments!

#selfgrowthjourney #perfectionism #mentalhealth #blackgirlpodcast
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"We're making the rules and we can change the rules" This one is an up close and personal look at how perfectionism shows up for me and how internal family systems work can be extremely helpful for healing the stories that feed into the need to be and do things perfectly. Stories that say you can't make a mistake or, if you're like me, "it'll be my fault." Atim cautions me against looking for a simple 5 step plan to heal perfectionism and encourages a practice to process deep seated emotions that we're scared to feel. We also talk about societal and cultural pressure to be perfect. It's a juicy one!! Tune in to get tips on dealing with perfectionism and to hear a personal and healing conversation about my own neuroses that stem from the urge to control and manage things a particular way 🙃 Do you identify as a perfectionist? Share your experience in the comments! #selfgrowthjourney #perfectionism #mentalhealth #blackgirlpodcast
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"There is only one of you in all of time" Been feeling pulled to all meditations on authenticity and being true to you. Do you feel like you're showing up as the you-est you lately? I feel like I've grown distant from me. I miss her ❤️ #authenticity #selfexpression #creativityquote
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Tune into ease and grow on your favorite platform 🎧

What has been giving you peace lately?? Share your latest tools and mindsets in the comments! I'm curious what I should add to my toolkit!
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🚨 new episode alert! 🚨 If you've been feeling like you've been operating out of scarcity, lack and even desperation, this episode is for you! I share some guidance I received from my inner voice that's been keeping my mindset in check and led to a deep feeling of inner peace that I've been loving 💕 Tune into ease and grow on your favorite platform 🎧 What has been giving you peace lately?? Share your latest tools and mindsets in the comments! I'm curious what I should add to my toolkit!
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🚨new episode alert 🚨

I'm baaaack. And I've missed chatting with you guys 🥺

I will say I am feeling way better after this "month of me" experience I gave myself in October. It was much needed. It didn't go exactly as planned (as it never does) but I feel like it did its job sufficiently 😌

Tune in to hear about my new more surrendered approach to life after reflecting on how I've been feeling for a lot of the year ✨

I'm also curious to hear how you've been feeling and what tools or rituals you've been leaning on in this season? Meditation, extra rest, walks? Let me know!
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Can't wait to reflect and realign with you during reset to rise in less than 24 hours! ✨🥳📓 get your journals ready!
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Can't wait to reflect and realign with you during reset to rise in less than 24 hours! ✨🥳📓 get your journals ready!
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Can't wait to reflect and realign with you during reset to rise in less than 24 hours! ✨🥳📓 get your journals ready!
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