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March 2, 2021

Ep 8. Spotting our Sneaky Self-Sabotage Patterns

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In this episode, I share a breakthrough I recently had in therapy and realizations around my pattern of avoiding things (super enneagram 9 vibes). I give tips for how to spot your own sneaky patterns that are sabotaging your goals and give encouragement to face things head on in your life and relationships.

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  • The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile
  • Episode 6: Love in the time of Quarantine with Kimberly Cabot
  • @HandelGroup Instagram
  • Armchair Expert podcast with Amy Poehler

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Hey, I’m Sika

Hey, I’m Sika

Millennial coach, writer, and heart-centered creative obsessed with creating a life that feels good. I like to write about life lessons, mindfulness, relationships, and tips for living an authentic life. You can find me sipping an oat milk latte, practicing yoga, coaching clients, yapping on the mic for Ease and Grow, listening to a podcast or audiobook, taking my 100th personality test, or being a listening ear for a friend. ❤️

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I know because I was there 😩

We don't have to trudge through life on autopilot just making it day to day, we can reconnect to that vibrant joyful self again! 

And if you need some assistance with that, I've got some wonderful tools to share with you 💗

As a life and mindset coach, I deeply believe in the power of our thoughts and beliefs to shape our life experience.

During our time together, I'll share why we fall into a negative thought cycle, steps to make our way out of it, and simple practices to cultivate more consistent good feelings (even with all the chaos of your life and the world)

we focus on controlling what we can control and you'll be amazed by what ripple effects come from there! 🌞

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This one is an up close and personal look at how perfectionism shows up for me and how internal family systems work can be extremely helpful for healing the stories that feed into the need to be and do things perfectly.

Stories that say you can't make a mistake or, if you're like me, "it'll be my fault." 

Atim cautions me against looking for a simple 5 step plan to heal perfectionism and encourages a practice to process deep seated emotions that we're scared to feel. We also talk about societal and cultural pressure to be perfect. It's a juicy one!!

Tune in to get tips on dealing with perfectionism and to hear a personal and healing conversation about my own neuroses that stem from the urge to control and manage things a particular way 🙃

Do you identify as a perfectionist? Share your experience in the comments!

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